Not Much Longer

8/27/09 at 10:46 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 2 Comments

In a few more minutes I’ll enter my sixth decade of existence.  This one has been the most difficult, as father time has caught up to me and my physical skills have deteriorated.  It’s by the grace of God that I have not been in a car accident in the last few years, as my vision has declined and I feel a slight loss in concentration for the task-at-hand.  I try not to groan too much when sitting down, standing up or (the worst) squatting/bending down to pick up something.  I suppose getting rid of the chubbiness would help.

Yeah, ain’t it fun reading about somebody’s griping about their ailments?  I hope the Obama health “scare” program does not add to my woes.  I have much to be thankful for, though I wonder how I can find the energy to chase after a 5 and 6 y.o. every day.  I feel badly that I don’t have the energy to keep up with them, but I try to love them as best I can.  With my 11 y.o. son I get to live vicariously through his first season of football.  I can feel a part of me wanting to “strap it on” and knock heads – in reality any tackle football on my part would be very short-lived.

We will be entertaining both my mom and dad (divorced nearly 35 years ago) coming in from the Chicago area as well as my in-laws (nice people).  Kristal may have invited others tomorrow night, so we’ll see.  I don’t know if I’ll be asked to give a short speech (oh boy), but I want to be prepared just in case.  I have to remember to focus on the blessings rather than the what-ifs and woulda-coulda-shoulda.  When you get old the latter stuff tends to creep in.  Maybe I’ll save that for another post … not.


8/05/09 at 8:16 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 4 Comments

This post has been rolling around my head for awhile, so I  might as well unload it somewhere.  Our recent return from vacation has helped confirm some of the trends I’ve noticed.  I have mentioned before the slow progress I’ve had connecting with Joey (6 y.o. boy) since arriving at the Taterbed in Dec. 2006.  He’s not very expressive unless he’s angry (and it’s not a good “expressiveness”), and the times I tried to get closer to him at the beginning were difficult.

I didn’t feel like he accepted me as “dad” but the guy who owns the house, yells sometimes and has money.  Hugs would have to be prompted, and he would typically seek out his older brother or Kristal when he needed something.  In the last few months it has felt like things have finally turned around.  I don’t know if it’s a trust issue or if it really is love, though I’ll accept the latter.

He now will come up to me and sit on my lap without my asking.  He also seems to be discussing more things with me, where before it was a shrug and a mumbled “Idunoh”.  I’m not a big touchy-feely guy and have to remember to include more wrestling/hugging with the kids.  It’s amazing how much they respond to physical touch.  My heart goes out to those kids who are in situations where they don’t get hugs (and rough-housing!) and a physically reassuring touch.

I still treasure those times when Sandy (5 y.o. girl) reaches up for my hand when we’re walking and those neck-hugs when I challenge her to squeeze as hard as she can.  I need to push myself on wrestling more with the boys, pats on the back and hugs.


Over at Taranto’s column at WSJ online, this paragraph leapt out at me (a quote from Politico but the link was broken):

Added a senior Democratic strategist: “It may be out of necessity, but for Republicans, relying on the fringe elements of the party to be the face of opposition on health care is a dangerous game. The birthers and the tea party folks aren’t controllable, come off as angry and out of control and couldn’t care less about the issue at hand.”

First off, if Republicans are relying on a Democratic strategist for advice, then they’re in real trouble.  If anything do the opposite and you’d be OK.  As Taranto pointed out, this “fringe” now outnumbers the people who support this health scare scam.  The other, more galling, aspect is the reference to “birthers”.  I visit other sites on the web (i.e. ToD)  where there is this overwhelming stance for not just ZPG but negative population growth.  The tree-huggers value Gaia, obscure fish and redwoods more than people.

The sneers and contempt leveled at families of more than 3 (4?) disgusts me.  God help us if the liberals start initiatives to limit family size.  They’re working at the other end with Obamacare limiting health care for old people, where the end game is having them die as quickly and cheaply as possible.  They won’t come flat-out and say that, but it’s not difficult to read their intention from the remarks I’ve heard from the current administration.

As a Christian I value the lives God has created and rejoice when more are born, giving me the opportunity to praise the Lord with more brothers and sisters.  This world has plenty of space for more people, regardless of the “quality of life” we would have to endure.  While we as a society will have to wrestle with care we give to those near the end of their lives, it should not be up to a government bureaucrat.

Let’s be consistent in encouraging and uplifting life and helping our neighbors.

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